A glimpse into the life of Abraham Harder, 1903-1996

My birthday this year marks the 20th anniversary of the passing of my maternal grandfather, Abe Harder. To mark that occasion, I am posting this remembrance of him.

abe-harder-abt-1955A glimpse into the life of Abraham Harder

January 14, 1903 – November 8, 1996.

We are here today to honor a man whom we will each remember somewhat differently. Some will remember him as a Mason; others as a longtime Chevron employee; some will remember him as a neighbor; perhaps some may remember him as a scoutmaster or a woodsman; probably only one (his brother Bill) remembers him as a baseball player. Many others will remember him as a brother, a father, an uncle, a grandfather, and a great-grandfather. He was all these things and more.

Abraham Harder began his life in 1903 in the cold of a northern winter, in Butterfield Minnesota, above a dry-goods shop owned by his father. They were Mennonites, part of a group who had come over from Russia, searching for the freedom they had sought there after leaving what is now Germany.

He was one of twelve children of Jacob Harder and Susan Dick. There were four girls and eight boys — nearly enough boys for a baseball team of their own. And they played baseball — Abe was pitcher. The family moved to Saskatchewan, Canada in 1907 where they farmed — mostly wheat — for the next fifteen or so years. Not far away lived a girl named Marion who would become very important in Abe’s life, but they were not to meet until many years later in a different part of the world.

After his pioneering brother Ben convinced the family that “California is the place you oughta be” they loaded up their goods and headed for the San Joaquin Valley. The parents and youngest brothers Dave and Henry and unmarried sister Helen traveled by train. But the four older unmarried brothers (Pete, John, Abe and Bill) drove the family Model-T from Saskatchewan to California — in November of 1922! Now the route they took was not what I would expect for that time of year. They crossed the Canadian Rockies to British Columbia and then came down through Washington and Oregon into California. They were told at Banff, Alberta that they were the last car to be let through that year, because there was too much snow. The roads were mostly dirt (I guess mud at that time of year) until they got into California. And they had to cross the Columbia River on a ferryboat.

The family got a farm near Fresno, but Abe found work with Southern Pacific Railroad in the yardmasters office in Bakersfield — and as a baseball player (pitcher) with the company’s semi-pro team. In August of 1924 he got a job with Standard Oil of California (now Chevron) in Taft — again as a baseball player. In the off-season he worked as a roustabout and well puller. It was in Taft that he met Marion. In June of 1925 he transferred to Inglewood; Marion followed, and they were married in September 1925.

Abe and Marion, 1925
Abe and Marion, 1925

Abe worked his way up from a roustabout and mechanic to head gasoline plant operator by 1930. This included a move to Long Beach, where he has lived (except for a 3-year stint as district supervisor in Ventura) ever since. In 1966, he retired as District Supervisor of the Natural Gas and Gasoline Department of the Coastal District, Long Beach, Seal Beach, and Huntington Beach area. Not bad for a baseball player! Along the way he studied related disciplines such as physics, physical chemistry, steam power, electrical engineering and so forth. His electrical and engineering improvements at various plants earned him an unusual plaudit; upon his retirement, he was praised as one of Chevron’s finest engineers — yet he was never an engineer.

Abe was involved in outside activities as well. During the depression and war years, he and Marion were active in church work, boy scouts and girl scouts. They were instrumental in starting the first Cub Scout pack in North Long Beach. For a time, during a shortage of scoutmasters during World War II, he was scoutmaster for two troupes simultaneously.

After son Jim and daughter Lois each were married in 1946, Abe and Marion sought other outlets for their service; Abe joined the Masons. He was lodge master of Monte Vista lodge in 1957. He rose to the rank of 32nd degree Scottish Rite; although I’m not sure what that means, you Masons will know. After his retirement in 1966, he was a regular fixture at the Retired Oilmen’s Club, and the Petroleum Production Pioneers, and more recently joined the Lions’ Club.

Having been raised on a farm, Abe was an accomplished “jack-of-all-trades.” He designed his own house, which he had built in 1939 to 1940. At least two other houses (one in Ventura, and one in Delano) were built after his house plan. And when work was needed, whether it was putting in irrigation pipe at the farm, or plumbing, or electrical, or building a shed, or reroofing one house or another, it was usually “do-it-yourself.” And if it was not perfect, well at least, as he said, “it isn’t a piano.”

But Abe’s two great passions were hunting and baseball. I’m not sure which ranked higher. After the Dodgers moved to Los Angeles in 1958 he was a devoted fan. I think he sometimes got as excited as Tommy Lasorda. If a Dodgers or Angels game was on, the radio was on, no matter what else was happening.

And hunting — nothing got in the way of hunting! Only Marion’s disabling stroke in 1985 interrupted his yearly trek to the mountains of northern California. After she passed on in 1988, he returned to it, although with not much luck. He seemed able to recount every deer he ever got, and the take was considerable — plus two bears! I am extremely grateful to have been able to be with him his last few days “on the mountain” just this last September. We saw no deer, but he was sure pleased to be able to be there.

For me, his passing was too soon. Although I have lived nearby for my entire life, there was more I wanted to share. I wanted him to be there when I build my house. I wanted him to be there when my kids have kids. Maybe he will be — maybe he is.

Eulogy by Ken Piper, November 12, 1996.

Greed, Vanity and Wisdom

A Christian Perspective

By Fr. Patrick Mbazuigwe

July, 2016

18th Sunday in Ordinary Time, Year “C.” Without God, All is vanity.

A father left 17 Camels as an asset for his three Sons. When the Father passed away, his sons read the will. The will of the father states that the eldest son should get half of 17 camels, the middle son should be given 1/3rd of 17 camels, and the youngest son should be given 1/9th of the 17 camels. As it is not possible to divide 17 into half or 17 by 3 or 17 by 9, the sons start to fight with each other.

Later, they decide to go to a wise man. The wise man listens patiently to all they have to say about the will. The wise man, after thinking through it, brings one of his camels and adds it to the 17. That increases the total to 18 camels. Then, he starts to read the deceased man’s will.

Half of 18 = 9. So he gives 9 camels to the eldest son.
1/3rd of 18 = 6. So he gives 6 camels to the middle son.
1/9th of 18 = 2. So he gives 2 camels to the youngest son.
Now add up: 9 + 6 + 2 = 17. This leaves one camel, which the wise man takes back. All are happy to go back home in peace.

There are no shortage of stories about families who have disagreed over how their family wealth should be shared or managed. In 1994, 86 year old J. Howard Marshall II, a billionaire Texas oilman, married former 26 year old Playboy star Anna Nicole Smith at a drive-in wedding chapel. Marshall died the next year, setting up a showdown between his widow and E. Pierce Marshall, who was technically her stepson although nearly 30 years older. In the New York socialite Brook Astor case, in 2006 Marshall’s son, Philip, filed a lawsuit demanding his father be removed as guardian of his 104 year old Grandma Astor’s wealth. There is also the case of Ernest and Julio Gallo wine vs Joseph Gallo cheese, etc. Sharing family wealth among siblings is a difficult task.

I often think that I will be happy to receive a family inheritance. My siblings are cool headed and will have no problem sharing the wealth with me. But, wait until that happens then you will understand who your siblings really are. Some stories about sibling rivalry are so heartbreaking that you would be glad that you have no fortune to share with your siblings.

It is often said that “blood is thicker than water” but life experiences seem to suggest that “money is thicker than blood.”

The sad truth is that most wealthy families could best be described as famous, rich and feuding. The span of disagreement could go beyond sibling rivalry to hatred for parents and grandparents. But, whether it is siblings cutting off grandpa or grandma from handling family wealth, or parents and grandparents cutting off their children as heirs, we have come to realize that money can make a family famous but cannot buy them a happy life.

As we learn from the story above, a healthy attitude of negotiation and problem solving is to find the 18th camel i.e. the common ground. This 18th camel is nothing but God. It is God who gives purpose and meaning to every situation. In God all problems are resolved.

Jesus, in today’s Gospel parables (of the brothers who were feuding over family inheritance and the man who built a larger barn to store his wealth), rejects both greed and any attitude that exalts wealth over and above God.
It is not a sin to be wealthy. Many friends of God were wealthy – Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Saul, David, Solomon, etc. were wealthy. However, their greatness did not flow from their WEALTH but from their FAITH and their willingness to serve God.

Therefore, the bone of contention in today’s Gospel is not wealth but greed. Greed makes the heart to exalt wealth over service. Greed empties the heart of sacrificial love. Greed puts self above others. One’s sole desire is to accumulate more and more. Greed makes the heart incapable of a confident trust in God who is the source of all blessings.

Greed leads to pride which is one of the capital sins. A proud person is neither loved by God nor by his fellow human beings. And whenever greed mixes with pride, there is a time bomb waiting to explode, hence the unhappiness that comes from attachment to material things.

Jesus neither condemns wealth nor the wealthy. Wealth in itself is good but failure to use one’s wealth to serve others is certainly bad. By making material possessions, pleasure and power our top priority over spiritual riches, we die to the joy of giving, the satisfaction of self-discipline and the undefiled happiness that comes from sharing.

In his old age, the wise man Qoholeth having seen it all, was convinced that “all is vanity.” Whenever we devote our time and energy towards the pursuit of our selfish desires and inclinations, death merely discloses the opportunities we have wasted and the poverty of our hearts.

Justice demands that one gets what is one’s due. Seeking for what is one’s due is noble and praiseworthy, but, it is the intention that motivates us, which justifies our action. If at this moment you are fighting with your siblings for your share of family wealth, Jesus invites you to look up to God to give you the 18th camel, which only God can give.

Our God is a God of justice. Any justice that is not rooted in God is emptied of its strength, and will ultimately lead to violence. No wonder even after going to the law court to secure our portion of family inheritance, peace and happiness continues to elude us.

It is good to be wealthy, and of course we are all wealthy in different ways. We may not work hard for some of the wealth we enjoy, but we are responsible for all we have. It is by seeing all we have as a blessing from God that we come to experience the peace and joy which the world cannot give. So, while it is within your limit, be good; for a good person is the truly wealthy person. Material wealth may diminish but goodness grows whenever it is shared. And all who put their hope in God shall renew their strength in Him and all they do shall prosper here and for all eternity, Amen.

Featured Image:  Test painting for tapestry, Cathedral of Our Lady of the Angels, Archdiocese of Los Angeles, California, by John Nava.

About Fr. Patrick

Thumbnail of Patrick MbazuigwePatrick Mbazuigwe is a native of Nigeria. He is a priest in the Archdiocese of Los Angeles.

What Patrick says about himself:
• I want to live and die with no regrets in my mind. I want to be good for goodness sake and to love from the pure motive of true love. I’ve been wondering how I can go about this.

Favorite Quotes:
• Bloom where you are planted.
• While it is within your limit be good.
• Do good, avoid evil, purify your mind.
• I live to live and I die to live. Life is my portion.
• In the present I have found my joy. Neither past nor future can take away my happiness.